Rather than facts driving beliefs, our beliefs can dictate the facts we chose to accept. They can cause us to twist facts so they fit better with our preconceived notions. Worst of all, they can lead us to uncritically accept bad information just because it reinforces our beliefs. This reinforcement makes us more confident we’re right, and even less likely to listen to any new information.
“With that we have articulated a basic criticism of the most grandiose of all human attempts to advance toward the divine—by way of the church. Christianity conceals within itself a germ hostile to the church. It is far too easy for us to base our claims to God on our own Christian religiosity and our church commitment, and in so doing utterly to misunderstand and distort the Christian idea.”—Excerpt From: Metaxas, Eric. “Bonhoeffer.”
Was talking with a friend tonight and thinking a lot about the difference between a relationship where I simply enjoy the other person and how they make me feel vs. a relationship where care for the other’s well-being is so deep that it eclipses concerns for the self.
Both get regularly labeled as “love” but only the latter is sacrificial. Any thing that lasts must be built on the latter.
“I met a traveler from an antique land
Who said: Two vast and trunkless legs of stone
Stand in the desert. Near them, on the sand,
Half sunk, a shattered visage lies, whose frown,
And wrinkled lip, and sneer of cold command,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these lifeless things,
The hand that mocked them, and the heart that fed;
And on the pedestal these words appear:
“My name is Ozymandias, king of kings:
Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair!”
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.”—Percy Bysshe Shelley
“Words! Mere words! How terrible they were! How clear, and vivid, and cruel! One could not escape from them. And yet what a subtle magic there was in them! They seemed to be able to give a plastic form to formless things, and to have a music of their own as sweet as that of viol or of lute. Mere words! Was there anything so real as words?”—Oscar Wilde
“I think one of the things that most 21-year-old people should do is to recognize now that you can make life choices which control your expenses, and that controlling your expenses is one of the most crucial steps toward the kind of financial independence that you need in order to follow your dreams in the future. Whether it is a change of job, or an entrepreneurial dream, the less you NEED to spend each month, the easier it is to follow those dreams.”—Jimmy Wales, the founder of Wikipedia, would have told his younger self to save up. (via fastcompany)
You may not realize it right away, but but once you purchase a home you have embarked on an epic battle against nature that you will never actually win. Lawns, weeds, trees, bugs, termites, water, wind, dirt. The best your constant striving can accomplish is to keep it at bay for just a little while longer.
So I’ve been thinking a lot about how we see our selves. How we judge what is attractive and what is not. We (I) have this strong inclination to link what has value with what looks good. And while Apple product sales thrive with those sorts of standards, people don’t fair so well. With people there is no connection between value and appearance. This concept is as old as time. Beauty and the Beast, The Hunchback are classics on this theme. But no matter how elequoent the story we cannot learn the lesson.
This flawed system makes me value people less and ironically makes me value myself less too, since ultimately I dont even measure up to my own standard. It warps everything.
Kind of makes me wish I lived in a time before photography, where your only point of reference was the people you saw on the street around you. 1 in a thousand would be model worthy. Instead, I see hundreds of models a day. Talk about skewing your perception of normal.
Real people are amazing intricate creations. I want to better at loving people for that and not these silly shells.
Sooner or later, we all experience a moment in our lives when everything changes. When we realize life doesn’t look the way we expected it to. Or what we dreamed it would be. Suddenly we are faced with a moment of crisis. When our painful season becomes indefinite, we lament, questioning how long we must wait for rescue to come. Everything in us wants to run, to escape the pain we are experiencing, to look for ways to numb when it becomes too much to bear.
We wonder if God has forsaken us.
But God responds differently, “Turn your face to Me, focus on Me, because I have exceeding and abundant plans above all you could ever ask or think.”